Message to Future Parents XVII: Nuh!
"Did you poop?"
"Nuh."
"Really? Because you kind of stink. Are you sure you didn't poop?"
"Nuh."
"Oh, you're not sure. So it's possible that you pooped?"
"Noo."
"Well, I think we're going to check your diaper anyway, OK?"
"Nuh."
"Great, let's go!"
It has come to my attention that there are some out there who don't believe you should say "NO" to a child. Some think it breeds some kind of negativity. My apologies to any readers who subscribe to this theory, but I ask you, what kind of crap is that? How do you raise a kid without saying no? How do you spend 10 minutes with a kid without saying no? You don't, that's how.
There are others who don't mind saying no to their kids, but don't like for the kids to say no back. They see it as some sort of insubordination.
I'm all about the NO. I say "NO" like a pirate says "ahoy," which presumably, is all the time. It's a little known fact that Nancy Reagan actually got the idea for the "Just say no" campaign from me. We were in a room with some ad execs, and they were all like, "how about, 'Turn your back on drugs'?" And I was like, "Nancy, please just say no to these idiots." Then she was like, "Omar, that's brilliant! 'Just say no'!" I was like, "I no." (This is a much more noticeable pun when in writing, as I don't think Nancy got it when I said it to her.) And a campaign was born. Good times.
Anyway, I have no problems with no. If the boy is reaching for something dangerous, I'm not going to say, "look son, daddy's Ginsu knife collection could cut your tender baby skin, and daddy doesn't want you to get hurt." By the time I get all that nonsense out of my mouth, he'd be holding a knife in each hand, one in his mouth, and he'd be trying to curl his toes around a fourth. Instead, I let out a stern "NO." He stops, looks at me, then turns around and looks for some other trouble to get into.
And as many kids do, he's picked up his daddy's "NO" habit. He'll walk towards an electrical outlet, stick his hand out towards it, then say "NUH," pull his hand back, then walk away. It warms my heart.
Important Note: - In spite of his self-policing, I've been told that it is not OK to leave a child of his age at home alone.There are so many times later in life when he's going to need to feel confident that he can say no. There will be drugs, alcohol, telemarketers or other salespeople, cults, recruiters from Ohio State, and so many others that he will need to be able to say no to. It is my responsibility as a parent to prepare him for that. He has to be comfortable with no. If that takes him telling his mom "nuh" when asked if he needs his diaper changed, that's fine with me.



Comments
Glo said:
I didn't make it past the first line....beg your pardon?
jasmine said:
*patting you on the back* good job daddy. good job.
cadiz12 said:
that's right omar. and let's not forget the throngs of women he's going to have to let down easy. better get started on that early.
Onj said:
I don’t know if I’ve ever been so intimidated as I was that day when Ohio State came knocking on my door. My mother raised me right though, so as persuasive as they were, I still managed to say no. You’re doing good work Omar. The Buckeye is a poisonous nut, and that’s no coincidence. You have to be a pretty sick organization to choose a poisonous nut to represent yourself.
Viking said:
That makes sense... My cousin's 2-yr old son says 'yeah' all the time. It's his favorite word. It's as if they've never said the word no to him. He doesn't even know what it means.
His next favorite word is poopy.
demosthenes said:
He'll carry on your legacy, I'm sure. And by the time he's the right age, our rapidly-declining articulation of speech will fit just perfectly.
"Just say "nuh" to drugs."
I said:
glo - So... did you?
jasmine - Thanks, yo.
cadiz - That's an excellent point.
onj - Way to go, jon's mom. There are thousands of people per year who succumbed to the pressure of Ohio State. Frankly, I don't know how they still get away with it.
viking - Poopy is definitely in my top 5.
dem - That's going to make my job way easier, if I don't need to teach him to speak properly.
Syar said:
I hope he doesn't fall into the yes/no debate, where hours will fly as he fights with someone else (who will, of course, be in the wrong). Sounds something like this :
"yuh-huh."
"nuh-uh."
"yuh-huh."
"nuh-uh."
"YUH-HUH."
"NUH-UH."
"YUH- *The Boy kicks the other person in the shins* *groans*"
"nuh."
that would be pretty cool to watch though. hmmm....
Katie said:
I'm all for kicking in the shins. Though I imagine the boy would be so much more giant at that point he'd just hit the stomach on accident. No is a valuable lesson. Make sure to teach him to say a strong "no" to the vole when he offers the boy drugs. We know it will happen.
Nadia said:
I have a hard time saying no to people. The worst was when I was in this dark alley in the middle of the night - you know, just hanging - and some homeless guy (HoBob?) came up to me and was all like, "Hey, can I stab you?" He looked so hungry and crazy, I was like aaawww, if it'll cheer him up...
Um, Omar, would it be ok if I sat in for some of the boy's important life lessons? I think I may have slept through a few of my own.
Jackie said:
Yay for "other"!
Now Omar, it sounds like the boy has a little bit of a gangsta accent there with his "nuh" instead of "no"... what's the story? You been teaching him to pimp it again?
mep said:
How cute is the self-policing? I love it.
scroobious said:
I think my sister needs to read this post. Her very cute first-born is at the two-word sentence stage. Problem is, the second word is generally "now". As in: "Teddy now!" "Wheelsbus* now!" "Come NOW!"
Dropping that W would be a great improvement.
_____
* His two-word-sentence-friendly version of favourite DVD Wheels on the Bus.
cadiz12 said:
didn't master p have a song with 'NUUUUH!' as the chorus? maybe the boy has a future in ballroom dancing...?
X said:
One song, Cadiz? More like all of them. It's just as well he decided to stop rapping in favour of enjoying his money.
---X