Thoughts on 30
I work at a university, and most of the people who work in my area are college students. Any time we hire a new student, within their first few weeks, I like to play the "how old is Omar" game. From playing this game, two things are very clear to me: 1) college students have no idea how to guess a person's age, and 2) I must look old.
One of my least favorite responses was from a young lady who guessed "definitely 35 or 36" (at the time, I was 28). I've had students guess "mid 30's," but never with such certainty. So I asked her what she based it on. Her response, "that salt and pepper thing you have going on."
Let me explain. Since I was a toddler, I have had a spot in the back of my head that is prone to gray hair. It's not a solid gray patch, but it's enough to be noticeable (though it's not that noticeable in this horrible picture):

Because I never previously had facial hair, I had never noticed until last year that I have a similar such area on my chin (though it's literally only a few gray hairs).
So anyway, I fired her.* Both because it's rude to pick on someone because they have a follicle abnormality, and because I was sensitive about my age.
But now, I wanted to make it known that I'm making an effort to not be sensitive anymore. I turn 30 soon. Very soon. Everyone I know who has already turned 30 is like, "30 is no big deal." My response is always, "of course you'd say that, because you don't like to think about how old you are! You're so old, Barney Rubble was in your preschool class! You're so old, you used to babysit Yoda! No no, wait, you're so old..." Typically by this point, the other person has walked away.
Anyway, my point is that I disagree. Being 30 might not be a big deal, but turning 30 is.
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* No I didn't. But I should have.



Comments
Lia said:
It'll be okay, I'm sure. Speaking from no experience at all, and the surety that gray hair is a terrible tragedy. After all, I don't have any.
Becky said:
oh. my.
this is me. down to the tiny patch of grey. i am frozen in terror at the thought of 30. then i remember to be thankful that i have actually MADE it to 30, and i feel better. but then i go back to thinking about how nice that little "2" is at the beginning of my age, and not wanting it to go away.
the only difference between you and me (well, i guess there's more than one...) is that people tend to guess that i am younger than i am, probably because i don't have to power-dress for work. and the no-husband/kids thing. and my new cuteness. did i mention my new awesome haircut? because it's awesome and new and cute.
Jonathan said:
Omar, ok I know I am much much older than you are at 33 but believe me when I tell you - turning 30 isn’t a big deal. It seams like it leading up to the big day but it really is not that bad.
Its 31 that gets you. I’m not sure why, but turning 31 effected me way more than the big 3-0. Maybe it just took a year to sink in, not sure.
Carol said:
I would tend to agree with Jonathan. Turning 30 wasn't any big deal but 31 was pretty awful for me as well.
You might actually be too young to remember the show but there was one on way back when called 'thirtysomething.' At the time the show was on the air I was no where near 30 and I thought those people were SOOOOOO old. And then I turned 31 and suddenly I too was 30-something. Hit me hard!
If it makes you feel better at all, I'm hitting the big 4-0 this year. I try not to think about it. I'm hoping it will just go away.
jazz said:
you're just "mature" and infinitely wise.
you're not old. people just always mistake people like you for fogeys.
Radioactive Jam said:
The word 'decrepit' comes from the Latin 'de' which means from or out of, and 'crepitas' which means physical prime. For a Roman, being in their prime meant in their twenties.
I kid you not. Look it up if you don't believe me. Of course in those days a person's lifespan was a lot shorter, so "prime" may have been more fleeting than it is now. So I wouldn't worry too much.
Just slow down a little, that's all. Pace yourself. You'll be fine.
seventeen syllables said:
Dude, I am as old as the hills now, so let me just say that in retrospect my 20s were only slightly less confusing than my teens. So far the 30s have been my best decade. And my even older (hard to believe but true) friends say that the 40s and 50s are even better than the 30s.
So you may not believe the above (yet), but at any rate turning 30 is better than not ever getting to turn 30, which is the only other choice we have.
Oh, also-- an early happy birthday, and many happy returns of the day ;)
Silandara said:
You're right, Omar -- being 30 is OK, it was the turning 30 that was hard (it just happened to me in January).
Kevin, however, is turning 31 this weekend. Which means he's REALLY in his 30s now, there's no turning back.
Anyway, happy birthday. At least you're not 6 months pregnant (which I was on my 30th) and can celebrate appropriately.
cadiz12 said:
when the chief on grey's anatomy dyed his hair all black, you know "for the ladies," i thought it looked horrid. just focus on the salt/pepper as your "distinguished" look and then use some people's lack of tact/inability to determine age to hustle them.
besides, thirty is the new 23. or something like that. but i agree, it IS a milestone. happy birthday!
Lianne said:
I am 51 and I don't have any more than 4 grey hairs. I know about them because they come out of my eyebrows at weird angles. They grow at about 45 feet per minute and if I don't tweeze them the minute they show up they eventually get caught in my glasses or go up my nose.
I think weird-ass hairs are a real sign of age, not the color.
Congratulations on turning 30... it's a great time of your life.
But 50 is better.
Rhonda said:
You are DOOMED! I am 36 and it has been all downhill since I turned 30. DOOMED, I say, DOOMED!
LOL...kidding. Turning 30 sucks, but I think 35 was worse...because then you really are on the downhill slide toward 40.
Jon said:
I’m nearing that day myself ( About 7+ more months) and I’m not feeling it yet. Is that something that happens only a few months before the day? Most people think I’m in my mid 20’s though, so I haven’t had the old-age-guessed-by-younglings yet. (did I just type younglings? Maybe I am old…)
I said:
To clarify, the college students around here all think I'm old. The faculty and staff all think I'm a student. So I was specifically saying that students are the ones who suck at guessing ages :)
glo said:
Ha!
I just had to say that. So what if I babysat Barney?! You say that like it was a bad thing. He was a good kid - not very creative. Fred was a handful, though.
elasticwaistbandlady said:
Thanks to my love of fart jokes and Adam Sandler/Will Ferrell movies, I'll be a young 15 forever! Well, a 15 year old boy, to be exact.
Nadia said:
Oh em gee, Omar! I, like, totally know how you feel. LOL!
I'm, like, seriously freaked about turning the big 2-0 (next year)!!
Seriously!!!
I said:
I may also have misrepresented just how soon I turn 30. I've still got a few more weeks of being a 20-something.
Syar said:
Birthday cake.
Its all that matters.
(I think the salt and pepper thing can be rocked by some men. You are above and beyond "some man" Omar. Rock your 30 years!)
geekdarling said:
Happy twenty-tenth birthday!